Yeah, all you should have to do is set 'dedicated' to '1' instead of '2.'
What David said is a good idea, too. What I did was create a user called 'tremserv' and su'd over to it from my main account. Then, start up
screen and start the tremded. That way, you can still get back to your server if you close your terminal.
Using screen is easy enough:
Ctrl-A, then D = detach your screen
Ctrl-A, then Ctrl-C = create another window in screen
Ctrl-A, then P or N = switch windows in screen
'screen' = start a screen
'screen -r' = reattach screen
'screen -rd' = reattach screen, and, if necessary, detach the already-running instance of it
Of course, it would be best to get an up-to-date tremded (I recommend
TremFusion), and a new QVM.
Lakitu7's QVM is the standard, but since it's just you and friends, you'll probably want something else. Something with !slap.

Some other QVMs:
http://code.google.com/p/p-g-qvm/http://mysite.verizon.net/johne/rezynqvm.htmlhttp://code.google.com/p/slackers-qvm/