I FIGURED IT OUT!!!!
YAY IM SO HAPPY!!!!!what I did was set the mod path thing (+set fs_game) to go to my QVM in a different folder, instead of in C:/Docs&Settings/User/localstuff/appdata/trem/vm, i sent it to MYUSB:/Tremulous/vm and it works!!!!!!!
the only problem now is that i cant run mods.

i only just found out what fs_game did as well.
when i found out, i just (insert lightbulb here)'d! (ding'd!)
so maybe we can put my find in some sticky? has anyone found this out before? am i the god of the universe?
ok im gonna stop typing now, im just so glad i can type here forever.

@ Blissig: no that didn't work for me
@ Lava: that neither. couldnt find the manual. </sarcasm>
@ Undeference: knew that, tried that, it phail'd.
@ everyone else: couldn't be bother answering individually, but thanks for the help